Becoming A Better Me

I've been trying to better myself and work on being a better person....
Not in your eyes...my eyes...but God's eyes.

I'm one to keep it real...Majority of the time I don't care who it is or whatever the situation may be... I speak my mind about it and don't care. However, since i've started this new journey of "helping God to help me"...I've been trying to steer away from those bad thoughts, comments, things that are and could be hurtful to others. Now don't get me wrong...I have stopped completely... but I am trying...I have faith that he will deliver me from whatever he sees fit, but i also know that faith without works is dead...(James 2:20) He's not through with me yet...Besides, I just started! :)

So far its been going pretty good. I've set spiritual goals for my self and i've become more involved in the word...Gotta study and get my Jesus on...you know...

Today though I was tried... A few weeks back I was upset regarding a situation that took place regarding one of close friends. I was quite vocal about it...(bad Phoebe!) that very thing had been on me for a few days because my friend is the sweetest sweetheart you could ever know and I didn't feel that she deserved what took place. I decided to dig into some scriptures to encourage me and help me deal with that...slowly, but surely I am learning.

I've noticed that since i've been on this journey he's been showing me things and giving me the tools to deal with different situations...so how was I tried/tested today...I know you're wondering(since i've taken the long route)So...while I was taking a break....i overheard a few ppl discussing a topic that was in relation to the issue that took place with my close friend...Now the old Phoebe would've felt like they were discussing her friend and quickly call her up to tell her what took place..."being a good friend"....in the moment...God stopped that from becoming a complete thought and showed me the devil's fingerprints were all over it. 
I realized that just because their topic of discussion was in relation to my friends situation, doesn't necessarily mean that she was the target of the conversation. We can't fall for the devil's tricks...
No matter how small we may think something is...evil is behind all negativity and if we open our minds to him...he will show us things in his light.

I've heard so many times how the devil never stops working to bring gods ppl down...Do believe this is soooo true...so PLEASE watch out...and keep moving foward..I know I am because he has a plan for me...and I do plan to fulfill it!

HEARTBEAT/NOTEBOOK

Hey guys!...Just droppin something diff on you today...new poem...

I use this to express how i feel
this is how i deal
deal with all these anxieties that keep ppl poppin' them pills
My notebook

These anxieties keep me on my feet pacin'
but I face 'em
look em dead in the eye...because i need it
its kinda like my heartbeat

Now I won't lie...
I used to run and hide, duck and dodge
because i was scared
Scared of gettin' hurt again
But now...I face 'em
keeps me on my feet pacin' but i face 'em
I face em because I think i love him
and life's too short to miss out on him
Kinda like my heartbeat

He keeps me smilin...I got the sunshinin' blind 'em factor
feelin all free..keeps the ink flowin' on these sheets
My notebook

Comes around and my  anxiety level begins to rise
I'm on a high
makin' me more and more alive
Kinda like my heartbeat

Keepin me high
Stomach full of butterflies...
and keeps my biscuit warm inside...
Got a lil bit of that white gravy on the side.
I can't help but express this
So i write
My notebook

Keeps this thing inside me thumpin'
Happy and motivated non the less
Sayin forget the rest because he's nothing short of being the best
He's kinda like my heartbeat.....



WHELP...That's all for now good ppl!

Live, Love, and have a GREAT day!

A GOOD THING OR COMMITMENT?...WHICH WOULD YOU PREFER?

Hey Bloggers! So I'm not a fan of forced things....so let me know what  you think..

So I know that femme's like commitment, but what about just having a good thing?
Some of you may be reading this like "WHAT?...No...I need a commitment honey"...Do you really. Can you really handle the commitment?

Some of  you may be able to to handle it, but commitment isn't for everyone.  
I had this conversation with a couple of my girl friens and they felt that without a commitment, he's not being foreal or 100%...or that he's playing games.  To alot of men and women a commitment  is a TITLE and just that. Is that what commitment really is???? NOT!
You can have the title of being his girl or her man, but he or she still may not be committed.

What do I say...I say  like my girl Janice said...Have that uncomfy convo of where you guys are going to stand.....In the BEGINNING!...I don't know about you, but this convo for me prevents alot of unessessary feelings. I like the aspect of  A GOOD THING....I'm young and single...and a good thing is cool for me...what alot of people don't realize with a good thing is that once you've had that uncomfy convo and the two of you are on the same page, Everything is ALL gravy! MMM! and that's good with a warm buscuit...if  you know what i mean..lolol!

I'm down for commitment if we're both on the same page, but if not...i'm sticking to A GOOD THING.Question:What if they're already giving you 100% and  you guys aren't/haven't talked about a commitment?
(Ladies, If  you've never experienced this...open your eye to a new way of thinking and get you some male friends  that are JUST male friends...keep those legs closed...Oh and stay away from the liquor around these friends...bad things will happen if you don't..lol)
 Also no commitment doesn't necessarily mean games. Sometimes a commitment can be forced. As a femme I know we sometimes force them  and forcing commitment can backfire. This person you're really diggin may very well be the person for you....you'll end up missin out on having them in your life because you FORCED commitment on the. We say.." If you're not ready for a commitemnt, then keep it moing.." They...or the two of you potential people may need that time to grow...and that "100% /COMMITMENT" will develope.

Just think about it.....

There are alot of situations that we face in relationships where we give up, are confused, think we've made the right decision, or listen to that friend that has NO clue what they're talking about(can't keep a man/women because they're so freakin self-sabotaged((I don't belive that's even a word, but we're going to go with that) and if we allow ourselves to hear his side, or just see things in a diff light...we can save ourselves from alot of heartache.

I'll leave it at this for now for you gus to ponder on....Leave some feed back and Remember....Love, Live...and Have a Great day!

Self-Respect

Ok so I'm just going to get right into it.....

As femme's we need to know our worth and stop presenting ourselves as trashy, weak, ghetto, and naiive and the many other ways that we present ourselves... Where's the self-respect ladies?

I don't know if its just me or what, but i can't stand to see a beautiful lady selling herself short. Selling yourself short like you're worthless...first  things first: PLEASE Stop calling yourself a B*tch... WTH! That is not cute and it shows how much you really think of yourself...men will treat us how we allow them to. Disrepecting yourself means that he and anyone else can treat you the same way because that's how high you hold yourself.
Second: Stop sleepin with multiple men. IT'S NASTY!
Third: Stop going out with everything hanging out...That is not cute...you look disgusting. If you so decided to do so and guy grabs you or steps to you wrong... PLEASE don't be offended...you did it to yourself!
That covers trashy...lets move to weak....

Why are we acting weak...we're so much stronger that we know.
*To all the ladies with FAKE friends...please let them go...they are a waste of your time.
I like to call them the "CONVENIENT" friend...you know the ones that only kick it with you    when its convenient for them...Use you for all  you have and then drop you...want you to do EVERYTHING for them and do NOTHING for you....Yeah...umm i'm cool on that...Stick with the one's who've been there for you through thick-n-thin and vise versa.
*To all the ladies with these WEAK men that down you, make you feel less than your worth, use you, don't treat you like a queen.....LET HIM GO!
I know its not always as easy to do, but talk to someone...(and NOT the man hating girl that doesn't know how to keep a man...she'll mess you up everytime- while you're at it...get rid of her too).
* All the ladies that let everyone walk all over them...GET A FREAKIN' BACKBONE...SIDE BONE...Heck...ONE IN THE FRONT TOO!..LOL! My bad...i had a moment.
I guess being naive ties into this a lil bit...all i have to say is stop acting dumb!! If something  is right in front of your face and plain,...take it for what it is... Keep moving foward. He or she is not worth your happiness whether it be your man or friend...

OMG!!!!Ghetto....Why do ya'll act soo freakin' Ghetto...i'm mean seriously... Who does that?
That is so NOT cute. That is a complete turn off to a man who has alot  going for himself. IDK about you, but i'm so over the hustler type guys... That Life only lasts for so long and...Its plaid...Get yourself together so that you can get a man that has himself together.


Ok...enough about this self respect thing...i'm pretty sure you all get the hint!.. LIVE, LOVE, and Have a GREAT day!!!!!